Friday, November 6, 2009

Planting A Seed

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Ok...I have so much I want to say right now, that I can't even make coherent sentences. I'm going to really try so please bare with me. 
See this little, teeny, tiny seed? 

Well it can grow into this...fast

What do those seeds represent? Doubt. When it comes to me trusting people, once a seed of doubt is planted it can't be erased. The doubt will always be there and the trust will never be as strong as it once was, therefore the one seed sprouts little friends. Before I know it little seeds of doubt have been planted in every direction and all trust is lost. 
Right now all I can see is seeds. 

Can you trust someone once you've been given reason not to?

19 comments:

Jenn Bull said...

I have trust issues! Big time!

Sara said...

No I definitely can't. I've tried in the past but it's worthless for me to even try. And I also tend to be quite harsh about who I can and cannot trust.

Kattrina said...

As many people say, trust must be earned. I do think it's possible to trust someone again, after that trust has been broken, but it takes time. And forgiveness. If it's possible to forgive completely, then in time the trust can be rebuilt. However, if forgiveness is not 100%, that tiny bit of anger will feed the doubt forever. That's been my experience at least.

The Queen of Clearance. said...

nope never. I am completely unfogiving and unforgetting. I pretnd like Im not but its always there in the back of my minding and I am always checking up on what you tell me to make sure that its true. I just cant help it!

Carrie said...

Trust is a very fragile thing. Once it's lost the first time, it's hard to gain it back. I think that if, over LONG periods of time, someone proves themself a GREAT amount it is possible for trust to be regiven. But it's not the least bit easy. I also think that breaking trust twice is my limit. After that, I'm usually done. :/

Miranda Tucci said...

Once someone breaks your trust they need to EARN it back. It is going to take effort of their part - no excuses. I know you jennifer, and I know when you go with your gut you're usually NEVER wrong. I don't know the situation but just listen to what your gut feeling is telling you.

Justine said...

I have big trust issues, too. I hope things turn out okay, friend!!

high heels said...

I can't....maybe it depends on what happened and if it's forgivable or not. But some things are not forgivable. Definitely not.

BakerGirl said...

It depends. I used to have major trust issues. However, I do believe that with enough time someone can prove they are turst worthy again.

Just follow your heart. It will tell you if you forgive and move on, or if it will always be a point of contention for you.

I've had some cases where forgiveness is never going to happen. Ever.

I've had other situations where over a a looong period of time I slowly trusted that person again.

Katie said...

I know exactly how you feel. It really depends on both people involved, but I think once you have that seed it won't ever go away it just might get smaller...

Random Musings Of My Life said...

UGG touchy subject. I think as women though we have BIGGER issues to this than men do. AND most of it is unfounded. If its WITHOUT A DOUBT (you would commit this issue to the gas chamber and you know 100%) then I could not go back..

But thats just me

Karren said...

I've always had trust issues with people. I've been burned way too many times. & If someone breaks that trust, then it's done. I might stay in contact with them but it will never be the way it use to.

Dollface said...

Trust is hard... I think that as long as you have it in the beginning and reveal all... youre good.. its worked so far! xxxoo

SinGal said...

ONLY is they EARN your trust back. You can't give it to them and wait for them to hurt you again. if you do, that's your fault. You can give them the chance to work for it, and earn it back. If they don't, then you can move on! :)

Hugs my friend!

Kristen @ Miss Prissy Paige said...

I don't think so. If they break your trust once, its gone forever. Just like cheating boys - once a cheater, always a cheater.

JG said...

I know what you mean. We should be wise, but at the same time we always need to leave people a little room to disappoint us. I know I can let people down all the time. Now, if we're talking a pattern of betrayal, that's a different thing. As the Great One said, "Trust, but verify."

Erin said...

I can but it takes a really, really long time. One of my best friends cheated with my boyfriend (this was 8 years ago). It took a very long time but we have managed to rebuild our friendship.

That said, I don't blame anyone that can't trust people that have proven to be untrustworthy.

The Mrs. said...

hubs always says trust but verify but i dont always see how he can relate that to everyday life. i think he just likes to say it. and annoy me.

and no i cant trust after ive been screwed but then again i hold on to grudges ffffoooorrreeeevvvvvveeeeeer.

Tonja +Jere + Kids said...

its a hard road you are going down, but it can be achieved...sometimes it takes some letting go, and there will always be people who will never be sorry, people who will break your trust and people who don't give a crap about how you feel, and people who will let you down...I try to give people a little bit of room to dissapoint me, as I know I probably have let people down before as well...so if they gain the trust back, that is good...but after that if they break it again and it becomes some vicious pattern of outright betrayal...I am done with it. Also depends on the situation, the person etc.