Tuesday, October 1, 2013

An Ugly Word

Can we talk about an ugly word?


If you would have asked me a couple years ago if I thought I'd be in the dating world right now, I would have laughed and said no. Flash forward and here I am, a 29 year old single lady. I've been going out on dates for over a decade now. I feel like Charlotte said it best on Sex and the City.
I mean really. Where is he? I'm ready for the world to bring me the guy I've always been looking for. I'm tired of going out on dates and it leading now where. I'm tired of commitment phoebes. The mama boys. The game players. The liars. The ones who lead you on. The ones who just fall off the face of the earth and so on.
I want to meet the man I've always dreamed of being with. Someone who wants to share their life with me. Who can be open, honest and has nothing to hide. Who wants to spend time with me and be proud to introduce me to their friends and family. Who can't wait to see me at the end of a hard day. Who will hold my hand when I feel sick. Who will look for hours for that perfect shell that I've wanted from the beach. Who will remember the little things. Who will compliment me.Who at the end of the day will love me no matter what and through thick and thin.
I'm ready for him so where is he? Everyone always says it'll happen. They say not to look for it and I haven't. He still hasn't appeared. There have been a few who I thought might be him but in the end they were just time fillers. People to fill that gap of time until I'd really meet the one. So what happens if I never meet him? I say this and people instantly say, "No he's out there! You'll meet him! He's waiting for you too." Ok. That's a great idea in theory but really... what if I never find him or he finds me. What if I end up being one of those people who never meets the person they are meant to be with? Yes. I know that doesn't happen to everyone and people usually find someone to be with forever but guess what.... some people don't and they end up dying after a life of solitude.
I don't want solitude. I want to share. I want to be a plus 1. I want to say table for 2. I want to wonder what I'll get someone for anniversary gift. I want to wonder what surprises I will get. I want to have a family and make more memories. So my question is... Where is he?


Jamie Sefcik || Hello Little Scout said...

Dont you worry! He's just getting ready for you :)

Deidre said...

Ok, maybe this is just me...but I think the "don't look for it" theory is crap. When I'm looking for a job I don't just go about my life waiting for one to fall into my lap, I network, I search job sites, I get out there actively searching. I think the same goes for meeting The Guy. I would have never met IC unless I had been actively searching.

But I do think he's out there. He's waiting for you too. I know you'll find him. I do! xx

Why Girls Are Weird said...

Ugh. Dating sucks. It just does. I've never been a dating girl. Always a relationship girl So I know how you feel, because the game sucks.

I wish I had some sort of advice. But just so you know you deserve someone GREAT. Not good. GREAT. And I'm proud of you for not settling just so you can be with someone.

I really believe he's out there. You'll find him. I mean, if you want to compare yourself to Charlotte, then look at her. She ended up with a pretty wonderful guy who gave her a pretty wonderful life.

Meghan said...

I know you will find your special guy:) But I think it's great that you're at least willing to date and take chances! Not many women I know are able to do that!

lil desiqua said...

Ohhhh my goodness. I can TOTALLY relate to this- every word! I hope we can both find our most compatible +1 soon!! (Also, I'm adding this to my fave links list on Sunday!)

Erica said...

all those words. so. many. feelings.

i tell you all the time to stop looking for someone because being happy by yourself is more important than looking for happiness in someone else.

also unless your life is a nicholas sparks book no one is going to meet these odd standards you're always telling me about.

why can't you be happy with my idea of just getting old on our own terms and being drunks? IT'S A GOOD IDEA.

Unknown said...

Being single can seriously sick sometimes. I love that quote that says someday someone will walk into your life and you'll realize why it never worked out with anyone else. But really you're right, it doesn't always happen for everyone. My old co worker was in her 40s and never married, but the important part was that she still had a happy full life.

Selma @ Crazy Little World Of Mine said...

Yes, where is he? Dating sucks. Always will and always have. Love that post btw. ;)