Sunday, September 20, 2009

Romance

Is true romance still alive?
I recently had a friend pose this question to myself and all of our friends. We started thinking about it and discussing it and what I heard was alarming. 

Now currently, I'm pretty biased because I'm surfing around on cloud 9. However, I feel that true romance is alive. I believe know that there are guys out there who still believe in it as well. There's guys and girls out there alike who still believe in "courting", that open up doors for each other, never go dutch, send flowers and call when they say their going to.

What do you think? Do you think that people have given up the romance and go straight for the convenience? I think there's a lot of settling going on. Women have become so hung up on being married by a certain age that they've given up on the idea of being courted. 

20 comments:

high heels said...

I think Josh was very much that type when we were dating....then being comfortable settled in. That's okay. He still surprises me every now and again and that is plenty to make me happy!!

~KS said...

I want to believe romance still exists, somewhere out there... and I'm sure it does. But not as much as it should... I think too many people settle- and then just get comfortable and convince themselves they're really, really happy... and they don't even realize what they're missing out on.

Heather said...

I would agree with you completely! I think once you get in a routine, we have to make ourselves be more romantic cause we get comfortable with how things are. My husband needs to take the class again though! :)

kkrowan said...

After being together for 8 years my husband still does all of those things for me...well not most doors (when you have a kid, whoever doesn't have it opens the door). But I get flowers and love notes left to me all the time. We say that we still have puppy love when most people lose it.

Miss I "Dew" said...

I definitely believe true romance is still out there. For example my Future Mr sent me on a scavenger hunt when I came home Friday night. It lead me to flowers, gift cards, and wine. It's hard to keep the romance flowing after some time but you HAVE to or else you become comfortable and bored. Good post!

Katie said...

I FULLY agree that too many people settle

Young Mom/Wife said...

I do agree with you that some people out there do just settle because they are afraid of being alone, but true romance is definitely out there. Which I think is so sad. I truly believe there that each person has a soul mate, sometimes you have to dig/wait to find that person.

My husband doesn't do all the traditional romantic things for me, but I love his newspaper wrapped gifts and his cute cards, etc.

Ashley said...

I think that nowadays people are giving up the idea of true romance. A lot of people have become so obsessed with their careers and getting ahead, that they often push aside the idea of love. Then when they're in the 30s, they're like "Holy hell, I'm going to be single at 40 if I don't get out there." And then they kind of end up settling.
I do believe that women can still be swept of their feet and treated perfectly by their one true love. My husband swept me off my feet, in a manner of speaking, and I'd like to believe he is my one true love. :)
And I don't necessarily think that just because the man stops doing all the "gentlemanly" things means that the romance isn't there. Like Young Mom/Wife said, they show it in different ways. And hopefully, every now and then they surprise you and do all the wonderful things they used to. :)

Amanda said...

I think romance and courting is really in the eyes of the beholder. Kelsey and I are not romantic people. We've been together almost 5 years and married a little over 2 of those, and it's not that the romance is gone, it's that we don't have time for it anymore. I think that when you are in love, you go from the beginning stages when it's all roses and wine and candles, then eventually move on to something deeper. I honestly don't LIKE the really cheesy romantic stuff. I'd much rather him, for instance, wash the dishes or do laundry, than buy me roses. Have you read the 5 love languages book? It really changed our relationship bc we realized that we both need things that make us feel loved. So the key for me is to have a guy who loves you like you need to be loved, whether that is the traditional courting or something more "everyday".

Girl With The Golden Touch said...

I hope not :( xx

Shoshanah said...

My boyfriend still opens doors for me, so if that's romance then I guess its still alive.

DeAnna said...

i like to dream that my husband is romantic, but he's not. he may have a moment or a slight glimmer of hope, but that's just from a ton of pushing and hinting on my part. he's definitely gotten super comfortable. he did open my door for me a few times when he was home in june - but it's so weird to be cause he never does stuff like that. i do get envious of those with partners that are romantic - cause i've always wished that richie was like that -- maybe there's hope as he gets older and starts to realize how some things are important to me - even if it's a little thing - they make me happy.

Erin said...

I think it is still alive, but sometimes--especially when we have been together for a long time--it can get forgotten.

The Queen of Clearance said...

romance showmance. lol. Its nice every once in a while, but its really not true to real life. Real life is paying bills running earrings and feeding your kids. Yes we all want to be shown that we are loved and a little extra attention sometimes is nice...but Im not big on the carriage rides, rose petals on the bed, candles lit kinds of stuff. Its just not realistic....and I now realize that I sound like a debbie downer :) lol...I'll call it being a realist so I can sleep better...lol.

Rachael said...

I believe in romance = )And while we're comfortable with each other, we're still romantic an mushy-gushy.

Jacqueline Smith said...

i believe in romance.
it just sucks that sometimes we have to remind ourselves that it's still there.

The Peach Tart said...

I believe that romance still exists but perhaps the moments aren't as often as in the early years of a relationship.

Ashley said...

I can count the number of times that Trevor bought me flowers on one hand. :) But he does so many other things that I find terribly romantic, sweet and loving that it definitely makes up for it and then some.
I do know a lot of people who settle just because they don't want to be alone. Or those who realize once they have been together for years, have become engaged and stay with the person and end up marrying them even though they realize it is a mistake. It's against human nature to want to admit "defeat" or "failure". And patience is hard(daily struggle on my part).
But I truly believe it IS still out there. Sometimes the definition of romance changes from person to person, couple to couple and situation to situation - but LOVE, true, deep and lasting love is still alive and out there.

Annie said...

i believe that true romanace still exists and i love when my fiance does something out of the ordinary to show me that it really does exist. we get in routines in relationships and sometimes forget about the romantic side. i know i'm happy and i guess that is what matters :)
thanks for posting about this hun.

Becky said...

True romance is definitely still there. Proof lies in the flowers sitting on my table "just because". I completely agree though that there are so many people who settle. They don't know what they are missing. I would completely advise people to wait, until they found that one person you just "know". Honestly, I didn't know that existed until know.